Just read an interesting article by Aisha Sultan (St. Louis Post Dispatch) about parents who were glad they said “no” to their teenagers in certain situations. As a result, they felt they grew into kind and thriving adults.
This brought to mind a parent who said they never tell their child no. We are talking about a three year old here.
How very sad, because he was certainly being told no in the preschool environment when needed and will certainly hear that response throughout the rest of his life!
- Sorry, NO you didn’t get the job, or
- No! I don’t want to go out with you.
Just think about it for a minute: if they don’t learn how to responsibly handle “no” over the small things when they are so young, how are they going to handle those bigger no’s in life?
Reality check, not everyone in this world is going to cater to and adore your child who is then supposed to grow into a responsible adult.
Is that why we are seeing so much violence over relationships that have gone sour or a job loss? They didn’t get what they wanted and don’t know how to deal with it? Something to think about.
It really is OK to say no.